Happiness = Own Taste of True Life

[= Have a Happy Life of True Taste] Happy = Own Taste of True Life

JAKARTA, KOMPAS.com - We often think, when our greatest desires are fulfilled, we will be happy forever. Conversely, if the desire is not fulfilled, then we think will feel hard forever. In fact, a sense of real life is briefly happy and difficult moment.

Because it is often assumed that when the biggest desire is fulfilled we will be happy forever, we often pursue things through to death and to avoid something we do not feel a desire also desperately. A misconception about the source of this happiness can cause us to pursue, and so we're actually able to feel miserable.

Posts in the past few editions of explaining how we can achieve happiness by Joy of Living Psychology Ki Ageng Suryomentaram. We can experience the heaven brave / tatag and have a sense of peace when understanding how the desires which are stretchy-mungkret (growing-shrinking). That is what causes us to briefly pleased that desire fulfilled, and while difficult because the desire is not fulfilled.

We will feel at peace with the understanding that there is no joy constantly, and no hard feeling constantly. Thus, we need not fear when the desires are not met. After all, we'll only be hard for a while, and will come back happy because the other desires are fulfilled.

By recognizing their own desires, to have knowledge about personal taste (personal pangawikan), we can feel free. Conversely, lack of understanding about personal taste would generate conflicts with oneself and with others.

The foregoing can be seen in the example when we have a conflict because of our desires conflict. The desire to be thinner, for example, makes us reject the food. Meanwhile, the desire to drive away hunger and enjoy the food indulgence encourages us to enjoy the food.

Wishes to the contrary (conflict) makes us feel hard (passion). However, if these desires were observed and understood, these desires will subside, and we just felt difficult moment.

Likewise, when our desires conflict with the wishes of others, if we observe, we understand, then that desire will subside. Thus, also the conflict subsides.

The true sense of life's good and bad is the sense of life. As described above, we often think if the desire is fulfilled, we will be happy forever. In addition, we also often think that a state or a particular attribute is a source of happiness.

For example, we often think that rich people must always be poor people happy and vice versa is always difficult. It turns out the same: both rich and poor alike while happy and difficult moment, one after another. Again, in this life nothing is worth being chased by desperate or desperately avoided.

The true sense of life according to Suryomentaram, Psychology of Java, is a taste of life a person who feels happy and briefly difficult moment as described above.

The true sense of life can be experienced when a person acts in accordance with the six-sa: sapenake, sabutuhe, saperlune, sacukupe, samestine, and sabenere. When we are in the act hold on to these principles (with a tasty, as required, as necessary, as necessary, appropriate, and in truth), we can have a true sense of life: happy moment, a moment is difficult.

Thus, we will not feel miserable forever when a desire is not achieved, and the thought can be happy forever if achieving a wish.

The desire that wrong? Desire fulfilled generate excitement, and instead desires unfulfilled passion aroused. People who wish to pursue it can feel hard (miserable).

By adhering to these pronouncements, we may then assume that the desires that cause us unhappy. More and more desire, more and more that are not achieved, make us feel miserable.

Maybe there is a notion that better throw desires, rather than being disappointed or hurt if not satisfied. Some conclude that we can live peacefully if they do not have much desire?

One mother was made dizzy by his son (9 years) who constantly thrusting various requests. Especially in his spare time, he was always full of requests, such as buying snacks, heavy foods, toys, CD games, until the request is buying expensive items like mobile phones and so forth.

When his mother tried to control so she does not ask for something that can not be met or asked that the child's desire to control, the child will say, "My mother never made her happy", "Tell that mother should not be", and many others who attacked her mother's sentence .

What happens in these cases is the mother of his child to suppress the desires that exist. As a result, the child feels pressured that he was behind the attack his mother with the words.

Thus, efforts to control the desire in this way actually it's useless. In addition to producing behind the attacks, yet the child's wishes are becoming more and no less.

What is not taught by Suryomentaram messages to suppress or eliminate the desire, but rather that we become observers of our own desires. By observing (as a neutral observer) we desire it, without judging, without any attempt to diminish, we will become calmer.

Suffering According Suryomentaram jealous and arrogant, if one understands that the sense of people worldwide is the same, Be free from suffering his jealousy and pride, and then can go to heaven peace. In every way he acts in accordance with the principle of six-sa which has been described above.

What about people who experience jealousy and pride? People who want more jealous of other people excel. Although he was dressed nicely, had a beautiful home, and so forth, if there are others who are superior, he can not feel that the clothes were chic. He felt that something was lacking, can not feel secure. Similarly, the proud, he always felt superior to others.

When seized with envy and pride, people can not taste the true flavor of life. His gaze was dark. Although he already has something of value (can make sense of fun, can make sense of satiety, and so forth), he can not feel happy because they still want what is owned by someone else.

With pride, he can not have the same feeling with others. In fact, this same sense is a source of happiness. Nilam Widyarini @ MM, M. Si Psychology Doctoral Candidate